Also, part of the problem is that my title and what I do does not match. I have tried for the past 3 yrs to get my job description/title changed only to be told ok, but then it has not happened despite even having HR involved..

Yes. That happened to me too.They will pile you with work to the point you are doing a completely different job but refuse to pay you or even give you a title change because that would mean a different salary. There's never "money in the budget" unless it's another million for Wayne or another vp. God forbid the people at the bottom get a $3,000 raise, you would have better luck trying to raise the dead. Yet, there's ALWAYS money available for some executive to get another $100k. And then you try to get a stapler and need to go to war. lol.